by Lillian Humphries
Let’s just start by saying I know some of you will disagree with me and that’s OK. I will love you anyway. J Remember this is my blog and it has my opinions in it.
Are you brave enough to stand up for what is right for your family? Life is hard and every day we face a myriad of decisions that must be made. We make them for ourselves, our family, our work, or husband/wife. What to wear, what to eat, what needs to be
cleaned, who goes where and at what time and the list goes on. When was the last time you woke up and said “What should I do today”? Or “What would I like to do today”? I am sure it has been a long time since that happened, maybe even back to when you were a child.
When did we start letting society tell us what to do? Can we not think for ourselves? We
are so bombarded with information and choices in this day and age that it leaves our head spinning. Where are the days of getting up each day and doing your job and coming home to spend time with family and friends and considering that a full day and enough?
Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
God tells us to be still. When will we listen to Him? I understand we all think we are doing the best we can. I challenge you to really think about that issue.
List the top 5 priorities that you believe should be in life. Now list the top 5 things that really take up most of your time. Are they the same? Good for you if they are. I would venture to say that we can delete a few things from our lists of activities and still have a wonderful complete life.
All things can be pleasurable and fun and teach us things along the way. But what is the trade off? Organized sports are a great activity for children to be in. It teaches them team work and how to share, take turns and work with others. It is wonderful exercise and runs off excessive energy. It is also very entertaining. How about dance, gymnastics, karate, cycling, volleyball, basketball, golf or swimming, etc. They are all good activities, nothing wrong with them. But what quality of life are these things bringing to your life? If you are like most families I know you are spending a lot of time running to and from activities, spending more money then you need to on uniforms, costumes and equipment. Everything is rushed in life, hurry up and eat so we can get to school, hurry up eat so we can get to church, hurry up brush your teeth so we can get to bed, hurry up so we can . . . . . . (you fill in the blank).
Wait – it doesn’t have to be like that. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn’t mean we all have to do it. If it doesn’t fit your family dynamics and you find out that life is harder than you want it to be – just stop. Oh wait – doesn’t that mean my child will not be accepted into the well-adjusted people in life. No – how about this – your child understands God’s plan for his/her life, your child understand that their job is to go to school, study and learn. Your child understands what family is and that life is not going from event to event. Your child understands what it takes to run a home and how to treat other family members, how to help your neighbors, how to take care of their elderly family members. Your child will know how to budget money with what they have and not go out and get another job to pay for all the things they want or think they “need”.
If you had a child with special needs you would build your life around that child’s needs. Parents, each of your children are a special needs child. They need you to love them and teach them the basics first and foremost. They need to understand what home and family values are. You want to teach them team work, teach them how to be a member of your family team. Each is an MVP (most valuable player). They do not need to be on a field, stage or other environment to learn their worth.
Parents I beg you to stand up for your families and get off the merry-go-round before it’s too late. Don’t teach your child that life is a series of parties/events, teach them life is about doing your best, loving God, your family and country
Share with me how your feel about the crazy life we are trying to live now. Do you agree or disagree? Let me know.
Wednesday, April 15, 2015
Are you brave enough?
I am a transplant from Florida and have lived in the Upstate area since 2001. I love living here and being able to see the changes in the season. Married to Doug Humphries and together we have two girls and two boys and 10 grand children that are the loves of our lives.