“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
When I was single I wanted to be married. As I remember it that was my whole focus in life. To find a man to love me, support me, have children with and live in the house on the corner with the white picket fence.
I found a man, we got married, moved thousands of miles away from my friends and family, had two daughters . . . and a divorce.
What happened to my little plan? That’s the problem; it was my plan, not God’s will.
However it was during this time that I found my true passion and what was missing in my life. It wasn’t a man. It was God.
I spent the next 20 or so years raising my daughters and trying to be a Christian woman. But always in the back of mind, was the “got to have a man” issue.
Looking back over those years I would have focused more on different things. Such as, trying to be a virtuous woman, not just a Christian.
I tried to be the Proverbs 31 woman. I really did. Woke early to make sure my family had food ready for the day. I made a lot of our own clothes. Went to work every day (my fields). I tried to have a noble character too.
Proverbs 31:10-12
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”
But there I was single with no husband prospects on the horizon. Did that mean I couldn’t be a Proverbs 31 woman?
I found a man, we got married, moved thousands of miles away from my friends and family, had two daughters . . . and a divorce.
What happened to my little plan? That’s the problem; it was my plan, not God’s will.
However it was during this time that I found my true passion and what was missing in my life. It wasn’t a man. It was God.
I spent the next 20 or so years raising my daughters and trying to be a Christian woman. But always in the back of mind, was the “got to have a man” issue.
Looking back over those years I would have focused more on different things. Such as, trying to be a virtuous woman, not just a Christian.
I tried to be the Proverbs 31 woman. I really did. Woke early to make sure my family had food ready for the day. I made a lot of our own clothes. Went to work every day (my fields). I tried to have a noble character too.
Proverbs 31:10-12
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”
But there I was single with no husband prospects on the horizon. Did that mean I couldn’t be a Proverbs 31 woman?
Look at the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman:
Trustworthy (honest)
That’s a list of good qualities any woman should have. Married or not. Why wait until your married to do all the things God wants you to do.
Let’s not think about this list of qualities as things we check off our list as “To Do” items, but as a heart issue. If you are truly fearing the Lord and gaining His knowledge then all the other items will follow through naturally, married or not.
Proverbs 1:7
Works hard (not lazy)
Resourceful (uses what she has {DYI})
Uses her time wisely (Pinterest every night?)
Good with money (stewardship)
Generous (with heart and hands)
Plans ahead (Time management)
That’s a list of good qualities any woman should have. Married or not. Why wait until your married to do all the things God wants you to do.
Let’s not think about this list of qualities as things we check off our list as “To Do” items, but as a heart issue. If you are truly fearing the Lord and gaining His knowledge then all the other items will follow through naturally, married or not.
The above qualities take knowledge and we can obtain that from God’s word.
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge”.
Whether you’re single or married you can be a Proverbs 31 woman.
Whether you’re single or married you can be a Proverbs 31 woman.
May God Bless You
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